I suck at life...but mostly my job.

So as you guys (or at least the people who I know actually read occasionally) know I work for my mom. She is a divorce lawyer and I have to say divorcees are the biggest pain in the ass. I mean seriously they think the world should revolve around them. It's not like we have over 100 active cases at any given time or anything. They are like selfish children - you know the kind that you want to smack in the face. Ok - that being said...part of my job should probably be client relations. I should probably try to be nice, helpful, and understanding. I want to be nice and I want to help them, but God they make it hard. They call 3 sometimes 4 times a day and expect me to have a different answer. All I want to say to them is something a very wise person said long ago "the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result." That being said these people's behavior is usually half of the problem as it is. Do we have no boundries anymore kids? For a real-life example, well I went to the house (that the big ex is living in), last night and she got pissed because I wanted _____. Well no I didn't call, she didn't tell me I needed to...Well no I was nice about it...No I didn't yell at her...etc. Funny enough the big Ex always has a different story, he was an asshole and blah blah blah....which is frankly more likely anyway. Now what do you say to a person who has no boundaries? I'm finding you CAN'T say anything. If you do say something you risk your boss (aka the mom) getting in deep shit...As you know I'm not a quiet person...I'm quite opionated. Now as far as sucking at life...
This job has made me almost entirely anti-marriage (no offense ladies, I'm glad you are cool with it...I find it very brave, frankly), I can sometimes barely stand talking to one of my friend's who is getting divorced (I cannot help you if you do not help yourself), I basically have given up on anything remotely close to the sancitity of marriage (I mean seriously divorce is the problem with marriage, not a loving gay relationships where people may or may not want to be married), I have found that people will use any excuse to fight (generally these are about none other than the all-mighty dollar), and that people really don't usually care about the kid(s) if they can screw the EX over (which is the worst part of all, they didn't make the choices in your life - YOU did). So how is it that I can do my job with out sucking at it? Anyone? Sadly, the honest to gosh worst part of it is that I like my job about half the time. When it's all quiet and people are calm and we can do our thing without having to babysit - things are awesome. I can get a lot done. I can help people if they'll let me and I get to work with my mom (whom I adore mind you - she's the shit). I like about 15% of our clients and I have to say they make my job worth it. I think mom feels the same way...although she discourages me going into law...hmmm?? So what do you guys think I should be when I grow up? Seriously I would like suggestions because mostly what I have is loser, lawyer, or shrink...that's a short list if you ask me. Anywhoser...

Letter to my very Liberal, Loving, Lesbian mother

If you are a Republican or very religious or even very closed-minded - please take my word and do NOT read this - if you do chose to read and don't agree I really don't care so please don't waste your time leaving a comment...I will just erase it. Yes that is me myself being closed-minded, but it is a very personal letter that I wrote my mom at 12:47 MST on 11/5/08. It reflects very personal and strong opinions and is very much a part of who I am. I am also sorry if I offend any Republicans that might not be an "average" Republican. I understand that because I don't agree with all of the Democratic ways of thinking, not all Republicans will feel the same either...sorry for stereotyping, but hey that's life. I am stereotyped all day long. That being said....

Obama didn't win Yellowstone - and I'm guessing when I wake up in 7 hours he will not have won MT and we will still be the same backward looking, conservative, non-progressive state that makes me want to move. Part of the reason I have little desire to reside in MT in the long run is because we cannot seem to look past ourselves and do what is best for the whole. We cannot put the separation of Church and State in our hearts...most people here are conservative Repubs b/c God says so...which as you know makes no sense to me. I believe in freedom of religion. I also believe that I should be free from having anothers religion pushed on me. Marriage therefore should either A - not be a religious act (as that seems to me to be a double edged sword under the 1st Amendment) or B) if marriage is a relgious act the government should only recognize civil unions for everyone (that would be real separation). I also believe that although I am not "Pro" Abortion, I am Pro Choice. I am against the government telling me what I can and cannot do with my body. I believe that Republicans don't want to be told what to do with their money and their rights (as many have stated), but they are willing to tell others what they do or do not have the right to do. That is why I am a Democrat. I don't believe that the middle class should be punished for not having as much money as the upper class, therefore I am for lowering middle class taxes and raising upper class taxes. I believe that by not equalizing taxes we are going back to the ancient caste system where unless (esentially) a miracle happens you cannot move between classes. I believe that even if you are born poor it is not of your own volition and that status should not limit were you are allowed to go in life. I believe that to some extent we not only should, but must help others, especially to the extend that they are willing to help themselves. I believe that I should have the right to marry whomever I please without judgement, if Christian conservatives feel a need to judge me for these beliefs that's fine too. No one will always agree with me all the time all the way. If they don't agree with me, however, they quote the bible...which again defeats the purpose of church and state. Our forefathers came to this country and purposely put a separation of church and state in our Amendments. I am of the religion "do unto others as you would have them do unto you." I am not perfect and I am sometimes judgemental....my judgement usually passes. I usually come to the conclusion that it is not always my way and it is not always about me and that some people will always be the way they are. They see nothing wrong with themselves and I can't change that (even if I know better :). I am an elistist and I do believe that I am smarter and more tolerant than many other people. I was raised in a small town with conservative values that I myself did not agree with. I learned to be tolerant because I had to be. I too was outnumbered. I love my country, but I am ashamed of what it has become. I believe that we are in need of a great and momentous change in our country. I hope that Barack Obama and the soon to be democratically controlled Congress can achieve a change that Americans, and more importantly, the world can be proud of. Today at this very moment, while I worry about Montana, I am proud of our country. I am proud that for the first time in American history a black man was considered an acceptable candidate for presidency. I am even more proud that we voted him into office on the first try, not the second or third, the first. I too have a dream like Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. I too "have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: 'We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal." I believe that no matter race, religion, sexual orientation, or gender our country is founded and prides itself on that very phrase..."We hold these truths to be self-evident, that ALL men (and now women) are created equal." We have an African AMERICAN president elect...those things that your generation fought for mom, those dreams you had for your children, your children's children, and your children's children's children are coming true. I only hope that my generation can be so passionate and progressive...even though unlike your generation we will likely never need to be. Thank you mom for your part in teaching me right from wrong, truth, compassion, and forward thinking. Thank you for your part in changing this country and may I change the world in a myriad of small, but significant (or even insignificant) ways. I love you and I am glad that we got to witness this huge step in our country's history together!